|from Harry Potter Wikia|
If I know that Charlotte's fond of climbing on the table, but do nothing to redirect her or show her something more appropriate on which to climb because it's just easier to say "no", that doesn't do a lot of good. In fact, what ends up happening is that she'll climb up there anyway, I'll get irritated and pull her off, and she'll have a tantrum. Now, at that point it's no longer "easy" but there's still time to do what is "right" (for example, by proceeding to show her an appropriate venue for her climbing, like Kieran's bed) instead of reacting in kind.
I'll be honest - this is a constant struggle for me. I have to constantly remember to parent more responsively when I'm feeling tired or am trying to cook or do housework. I don't think it's always possible to head things off before they happen, for I'm not omniscient or omnipresent and I can't control the actions of others, but, with the grace of God, I do think it's possible to make the right choice, which will vary from child to child and situation to situation.
Once again I come back to the idea of the domestic monastery and responding joyfully as I'm needed. It's certainly not easy, for denying ourselves is never easy. Thankfully God gives us the grace we need.