6 July 2011
Praise and Criticism
I've been thinking a lot about how I respond to my children. Unfortunately I find I'm much quicker to criticise and correct than I am to praise them. I seem to take it for granted when they're meeting or exceeding my expectations, but am quick to correct or scold when they aren't. I have high expectations, and I don't see a problem with that, for I think they are capable of those expectations (they've proven this over and over again). However, my response needs work. I don't know how to remind myself not to criticise as much. I do think it's better if I'm more responsive and not absorbed in my own thing, though. It's usually when I'm not paying as much attention that I get more irritated and therefore become more critical. Since I've realised that I have this problem, though, hopefully, with the grace of God, I can begin to rectify it. I know it won't happen overnight. I know it'll take a lifetime to learn, but I'm willing. After all, I want my children to know how proud of them I am, and not to think I'm always disappointed, because I'm not disappointed in them at all. I'm honoured to be their mother, and they should know that.